A 'Lil Update

                                                                              JUDE

Since Jude has been in Montessori school, his language has really taken off. Last night while they were rough housing around before bed, he told Taylor that he was going to kick him in the nuts. Taylor immediately raised an eyebrow (after we did a really terrible job of stifling our laughter) and looked at ME.

WHAT? Must I pay for the "Asshole" incident for forever? Geez.

"I didn't teach him that!" I squeaked, but still had to run through my memory to check and see if I did say that in front of him in the past. I may have thought in my head that I'd like to kick Taylor in the nuts before (although HELLO- I would never actually do it! Tell me you've never been so annoyed with your spouse that you've briefly considered giving him a swift kick to his guys down South?), I know for a fact that I've never used the phrase "kick you in the nuts" in front of our son.

He asked Jude who taught him that, and Jude laughed and said, "Mommy!"

He lies! My son lies. I'm raising a liar. Just kidding- about the liar part. I don't think he's a liar. I think he's 3 and doesn't know what he's talking about. So I forgive him.

Where he learned about kicking people in the nuts is still a mystery- although we have clarified, after he told me that he was going to kick me in the nuts too, that mommies don't have nuts. Only boys have nuts.

You could almost see the lightbulb go off in his head. He nodded and said seriously,

"Mommies have baginas." (vaginas)

Yes!

"I'm gonna kick you in the bagina!" followed by hysterical laughing.

No, no, no.

~sigh~

I will admit to accidentally making reference to his "balls" one night last week when I was trying to explain to him why he needs to keep his hands out of his pants. He's gotten into the habit of not only sticking his hands down his pants to mess with himself, but sometimes he pulls out his junk and starts laughing, exclaiming,

"I'm grabbing mine wee-wee!" followed by hysterical laughter.

What is it with guys and their junk? I didn't realize the obsession starts so early. We're working on this. It doesn't help that I have now given him reason to think that saying the word "balls" is funny- because as soon as I said it (immediately thinking, "D'oh! Damn it! I shouldn't have said that!"), his face lit up and he started giggling- proclaiming,

"Balls!" followed by gut busting, cackle-laughter. How did he instinctively know how funny that one little word can be? And how did I not have the will power to NOT join him in gut busting laughter? Why is it so funny to hear the tiny little voices of children say such inappropriate things?

After what became a 15 minute ordeal of me pleading with him through giggles to stop saying the word "balls!"- which he only repeated and began to shout and laugh harder about- I finally put on my serious face and said,

"Ok- we don't say that anymore. And Shhhhh. You're going to wake baby Mochi!"

He shot me a wicked smile, leaned in close, right in my face and whispered, "BALLS."

Except when he says it, he says it with a slight lisp- making it sound more like, "Ballths."

This is "Pukes" the spider. "Pukes" as in like the vomit. Don't ask me where he got the name- I'm not quite sure. I'm guessing it may have come to be such a popular thing to say for two reasons: A.) I use it a lot. More than I should- in reference to gross things making me want to puke, politicians and Fox "news" casters who make me want to puke and feeling so full of food that I could puke. B.) Taylor and Jude have a new thing where they say funny words to each other and die laughing about it, like "pukes," "fart," "nipples" and, well, I guess we can add "balls" to the list, although we are working on weeding that one out of the vocabulary. 

"Pukes" joins Jude for all of his meals now, sitting on his place mat, seated on a little pink reuseable silicone cupcake holder and eats Mochi's baby puffs out of a sushi soy sauce ramekin. 

Jude has yet to have that traumatizing experience with an actual living spider that will make him terrified or squeamish of them for the rest of his life. For now, Pukes the tiny $10-in-tokens plastic spider that he won with his tickets after a strenuous go at skee-ball at Chuckie Cheese stays in Jude's car seat to wait for his return after I pick him up from school every day.

Here is Jude doing yoga while eating corn on the cobb. He likes to show me his yoga moves while he eats. This makes me very happy.

Here is the contract for his summer school session. He got ahold of it and let me know what he thinks of the idea of summer school. Red ink! I'm impressed with the color selection. Really drives the point, you know? I would've used red ink too.

Passed out from playing, 2 nights in a row over the weekend. This is documented because it really has only happened in the past when he wasn't feeling well. These two crashes were simply the result of hard core playing. I can't lie- Taylor and I were pretty pleased with this. We work hard to wear our little pistol out. It almost becomes a contest- who can wear who out first. Jude almost always wins. These two early evenings, he was passed out by 7 p.m. 

We finally won a couple of rounds.

Victory!

A little weekend bonus!

MOCHI

Vivienne is 10 months old. WTH? How can this be? Amber sent me this photo of Viv from our kick ass Friday at the zoo last week and it made my jaw drop when I realized how big she is getting. I see her every day, all day- so I don't notice her growth sometimes. Then you get a photo from someone else and it's like they capture this whole crazy new aspect of your baby and you are just floored.

She's growing- that's for sure. Crawling every where, pulling up on everything- up the stairs, around the house and straight towards everything she's not supposed to be messing with. She doesn't seem too interested in walking yet, and that's just fine with me. I'm trying to mentally prepare myself for what it's going to be like chasing two children who are on foot. With Jude, we were always encouraging him to "go go go," advance to the next level! With Mochi, I'm happy to let her take her time. 

I love shopping with a little girl. She's already much more tolerant and patient when it comes to letting me fart around in stores than Jude was. Even as just a baby, Jude would get whiney and antsy and annoyed when I would take too long to shop and look around. Unless a Hot Wheel or some toy vehicle was involved, he was ready to go A-Wall from the store. Typical guy. With Mochi, she's happy to look with me- touch things and check stuff out. Happy as can be. She also has taken a liking to jewelry. I've been letting her dig around in my costume jewelry box and take stuff out. She LOVES it. She gets all excited and will hold stuff up for me to look at and get excited about too.

I was gushing about this to Taylor one day, showing him our baby girl sitting in my closet, having a blast digging around in my jewelry box.

"Look babe! She loves jewelry!"

He smiled, then thought for a minute.

"Great. This is going to get expensive."

Ha! 

I have no shame...

in being that mom...

in the middle of a store...

who acts a fool to make her baby do cute things for me to take pictures of with my camera phone.

"How big is Mochi???? SO BIG!"

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! 

This teeny tiny pair of jellies... oh man. I just can't get enough of them. I never thought a tiny pair of baby shoes could make me so retarded giddy- but these sure do. I don't get retarded giddy often. I'm not really the retarded giddy type of girl. But of all my few retarded giddy moments, I'd have to say that slipping these tiny jellies onto Mochi's tiny baby feet for the first time, on one of our first real spring-like days this season, was definitely in the top 5- right up there with the day I got to pick out my very first kitten when I was 12, the first time the biggest crush of my life (up until that point at least) held my hand at a Bush concert when I was 16, and when Taylor busted out an engagement ring after a night of New Years Eve drinking and asked me to marry him.

Retarded giddy moments. Priceless.

She's gotten really expressive over the past week. She giggles all the time. I'm learning that baby girl giggles could solve all the world's problems if we could just put them all collectively in a jar and release them out into the atmosphere. Mochi and I play a game where I make a serious face at her and she cracks up, giggling at me. It's my new current most favorite thing ever, although I can't help but think that this game is not going to be so funny when she's 13 or 14 and my serious face isn't meant to make her laugh at me anymore.

RANDOM

I'v been seeing these super creepy headless, armless, Tim Burton-eque, demented Barbie-bodied jewelry holders all over the place. They kind of freak me out. What freaks me out even more, is that a lot of them are dressed in super cute fashions. I see them and start overanalyzing them to death and the sheer capacity of my thoughts overwhelm me.

What does this represent? What does the popularity of this kind of weirdness represent? 

Fashion and the slender form of the female figure minus the head (brains and face!) of the female...

Why not have a head and make the jewelry hooks like Medusa hair? Why cut off the head?

This says something to me about our culture's obsession with the shallow and superficial.

It makes me fear for my baby girl- thinking about the kind of culture she is going to grow up in as a female.

Yikes. All of my women's studies courses start to come back to me and I get really annoyed with those ridiculous jewelry holders.

I think these things and must push my baby in my shopping cart away in a hurry...

to the next aisle...

get out my camera phone...

"How big is Mochi? SO BIG!"

Yaaaaaaaay!

Sometimes baby brains are a blessing.

I'm considering turning my cat Niles into a catskin hat. I haven't thought about this since he puked on my bed awhile back, but he's been eating my fucking orchid and I could KILL the little shit. Notice how the pretty yellow centers of the bottom two flowers are missing.

My camera phone wouldn't pick up the tiny teeth marks punctured all over the petals, but they're there.

Needless to say, Niles and I currently are not on speaking terms. 

What an asshole.

Back on the Paleo diet- 70/30 at least. This leaves me room for Orange Leaf from time to time- where I am now a frequent-flyer card holding customer, thank you very much.

It's almost swim suit season! And even though I'm graduating to a "mom" bathing suit this year- AKA one piece that is small-child-clinging-to-me-in-a-pool friendly- that doesn't mean that I'm not concerned about how I fit into it. 

The photo above is one of my very favorite sides: Okinawan eggplant with green onions, mushrooms and spinach (from Peach Crest farms right here in Oklahoma, which makes it even yummier!). It's a dish my grandma makes, and my mom makes, and now I make, and I will teach Mochi to make.

We eat it with tuna sashimi and Nori  (seaweed paper)- minus the white rice.

Paleo pizza. I made this tonight and it was happy food dance good. Instead of the sausage version that I usually make, I used chicken thighs, artichoke hearts, kale, fresh diced garlic, diced tomatoes, diced yellow peppers and sun dried tomato pesto sauce. It's not PIZZA pizza by any means, but it's a very satisfying substitute for this diet. The crust is made of almond meal and is soooooo good.

Here are the loves of my life watching Little Einsteins. It's Jude's favorite show- and now Mochi's favorite show. Mochi doesn't really have much to go off of, in regards to favorite television shows, since I don't turn the TV on until the 6 o'clock news in the evenings on the weekdays and she doesn't get TV time until Jude gets home and he gets to watch his one show- but she already recognizes the intro music when Jude watches it, and already does a bouncy dance and claps her hands and gets all excited. 

Watching the 3 of them on the couch together, when Jude is actually holding still and being quiet for 20 minutes, is a little slice of happiness in my world. 

Makes me a little retarded giddy.

Which makes me think that maybe I've evolved into more of the retarded giddy type than I like to think I am...

And that's what's up!

Cohabitation

I always write about my babies, but today I want to write about my husband. Because he's the most awesome guy that I've ever known and sometimes as a young mother, it's easy to be so enamored with your babies that you forget to brag about the wonderful guy who helped make your babies happen in the first place.

So, in between checking in with NPR, I've been listening to Jack and Ron on KISS FM lately on my drive home from dropping Jude off at school in the mornings. I used to listen to them when I would get ready for work, way back when I was managing Sunglass Hut in Sooner Mall in Norman. I first heard of the first plane that hit the first Tower on 9/11 from Jack and Ron. I picked out work outfits in styles that you couldn't pay me to wear now while listening to Jack and Ron. I nursed too many hangovers while cursing the mall in my head when brushing my teeth in the mornings before work, listening to Jack and Ron. They were part of a soundtrack to an entirely differently existence that was very significant in my young adult life.

But over the years I lost touch with Jack and Ron, replacing them with NPR entirely as I've gotten older.

I've kind of come full circle I guess- needing breaks from the news and NPR. Maybe it's my age, and the country and world's issues weigh heavier on my mind- whereas before I couldn't have really given a half a shit about much beyond what I would be doing after being released from the prison of my full-time job and out into my life as a single 21 year-old. I don't know- but it's nostalgic and kind of refreshing to hear those jackasses voices again. Old familiarity is nice to help keep you feeling ageless.

This morning Jack and Ron were discussing some of the posts that listeners had put on their Facebook page, responding to a cue of, "What makes your marriage successful?" Some of the responses were hilarious. Some were thought-provoking. Some made me gag, they were so cheesy. They collectively made me think about my relationship with Taylor Hines- because how can you hear such things without reflecting on your own situation?

As I was running through some of our strong points (best friends! great team! make each other laugh!) and not so strong points (overkill on the bantering! overkill on the dominant "who's the boss?"issues! arguing about stupid shit!)- I realized that this week being Spring Break and all, marks the 10 year anniversary of our making the abrupt decision to move in together and see what the future would hold for us as a couple.

10 years! It just seems crazy to me. It's as monumental to me as a wedding anniversary, because we lived together for so long as just a co-habitating couple that being married hasn't seemed a whole lot different. Just an extension of what we had already been doing. But with kids and a family house and stuff.

After 3 months of dating, we made the decision to live together. I was 22, he was two months short of turning 21. He still had a fake i.d. I smoked a pack of Dunhill menthol lights a day. He had long hair and earrings. I had a belly button ring and 10 holes punctured in my ears. He was at OU, a year out of graduating with a finance degree (with honors. One of the most admirable things about him, to this day, has always been his big sexy brain). I was managing Sunglass Hut in the mall and was prolonging a return to college to finish my degree.

When you move in with someone at such a young age, during that early-twenty phase in life- you have no idea if it's going to work. But when you are young and in that "OMG I'm so in love!" retarded-over each other, think about you all the time can't get enough of one another, we hardly know one another but we're going to get along and be happy for forever because we are so happy together crazy in love- do you care? Of course not.

The odds are against you in my opinion. You have skeptical parents wondering what in the hell you are thinking- whether they voice their concerns or choose to keep it to themselves, whether their your parents or your girlfriend's/boyfriend's. You have friends in all sorts of different places in their own lives who are skeptical or happy for you or jealous or doubtful or whatever. You have opinions and judgement coming at you from all directions. You have two separate lifestyles that you are accustomed to that suddenly have to fuse and mesh and co-mingle. You know where you'd like to see things go, but who knows if it will really go that way? Especially once you pass the point where your dating "representatives" bow out and the real people move in.

You know, the real people that you are. The ones with faults. The people who either make or break it for you. The people who either make the decision to break up and go separate ways, or stay together for the long haul.

Long haul, right here! (raising my hand!)

I called Taylor when I realized that this Spring Break is our 10-year-move-in-iversary (I love insert-special occasion-iversaries. I make them up all the time for us because it's important to celebrate US!), and told him that moving in with "Iced-T" (the nickname my friends came up with to tease my then-new boyfriend behind his back... which he knows about and thinks is funny... now) is the best thing I ever did.

It was a sweet, make you want to gag it was so cheesy exchange. We don't have those moments often- because we aren't that kind of couple- but when they happen, it's super nice.

We mused briefly over that first Spring Break, when I moved in to the house he shared with his best friend Dustin. How exciting it was to get all my stuff in there. How my then-kitten Niles had to live in our bedroom for the first few months because Dustin was allergic to cats (then shortly after, how Niles just came to be the 4th roommate who went where he wanted... usually straight to Dustin on the couch, of course). How after Taylor and Dustin left that week to go snowboarding in Tahoe, I came home from work to find a dead cat in our driveway and how freaked out I was about it. How my dad had helped me move in, but Taylor had not yet told his parents about us living together because he was scared (which is funny now but at the time hurt my feelings! *sad face*). How I had to get used to sharing my boyfriend with seemingly endless marathon video game sessions. The homie traffic that comes with living with college guys that would run through our household at all hours of the day. How he had to get used to me going out and partying with my friends without him on the often-occasion that he didn't feel like leaving the house. Our first big fight, when we first realized that living together means that fighting while living in the same house means that sometimes someone sleeps in the other room.

I think that living together was great training for being married, to a certain degree of course. For Taylor and I. I can't speak for anyone else. Would I recommend it to my kids, should they come to me someday and say, "Mom! This girl/guy I've been dating for 5 minutes and I are going to move into together!"?

Yes. I would. My parents have always been supportive of me and (most of) my choices in life- without raining their judgement down on me- and that's what I want to do. They've always encouraged me in experiencing life for myself- getting beat up and bruised along the way, paying consequences but also enjoying the benefits and rewards of sticking my neck out and taking risks- allowing me to reap what I choose to sow.

I can only hope that by doing the same, I can help my kids find the same kind of happiness and security and friendship and love that I found with that long-haired, earring-having 20-year old finance major who bumped rap music way too loud in his jacked up Tahoe.

Friday Fast Thoughts

Friday Fast Thoughts:

1.) Ready for a trip to Vegas in late May to do a "re do" for Taylor's 30th birthday, which was last year. We were unable to celebrate in our typical style then because Vivienne had just been born. Taylor and I are planning now, and I am both excited and sad at the same time, because the trip will mark the end of nursing Vivienne, after she turns 1 year old on May 15. We jetted off to Vegas right after Jude turned one year old on Jan. 5, 2010, ending our one year of nursing and celebrating my 30th birthday. I guess running off to Vegas to get a whole lot of partying out of my system right after I am done nursing my babies has become my thing. You can't really run off on any kind of wild vacation- or vacation at all really- when you devote the first year of your baby's life to breastfeeding- and that's totally OK with me. I've gone a year without really being able to be away from Vivienne for more than a couple of hours, and that's the only way I'd ever have it. I don't want to be away from her. A mother's babies are a part of her and, I personally physically feel the need to be near them and with them when I am away, so, that being said, I welcome the almost 2 straight years I've spent nursing my children. I wouldn't do it any other way. It goes by so fast- it's really just a blip of time that is so precious that it's worth the sacrifice of my quote unquote "freedom." 

I am super excited for a Vegas trip though, I'm not going to lie. Taylor and I get to go out and be ageless and be the couple that we've always been, and were before we had our kids. I just freakin' love Vegas. I love the energy.

2.) Speaking of pregnancy-mother-baby-related things. I saw the cover of ELLE magazine with a naked pregnant Jessica Simpson on it. I've read some pretty hateful and shitty comments that people- on FACEBOOK and off- have had to say about it. The most rude and crass have been from other women who have never been pregnant, who are grossed out about it and think her body looks sick. I personally think it's tasteless for any woman, pregnant or not, to pose nude on or in any kind of publication- with the exception of what's sometimes done tastefully in the name of art (and no, Playboy and MAXIM and spreads with celebrities like Jennifer Aniston in all but a tie are not art). 

My distaste has nothing to do with how they look, and everything to do with the pointlessness of doing it in the first place. Call me modest- I just don't see the point. 

Having been pregnant now in the past, I also can't help but take it a little personally when I read other women saying mean things about another woman's pregnant body. Pregnancy gives you stretch marks and allows gravity to kill your boobs. Your body is never the same. But guess what, self-righteous women who say mean things about being grossed out by a pregnant woman's body? TIME is going to do similar damage to your body eventually, so you're not safe from damage either. None of us are- so females should really get off their high horses and be a little bit fucking nicer... because we're all doomed in the end. 

HOWEVER- Jessica Simpson- did you really need to pose naked for a magazine? I mean, good for you for being confident enough to do it, and for feeling so amazing and happy for being pregnant that you want to share it with the world, but come on. Demi Moore did it years ago- first. You're not doing anything new, so what's the point? Do you really need the attention? Enjoy your billions of dollars from your fashion line and put your clothes back on. 

3.) Put bluntly, I can't stand Rick Santorum. I think he's a hateful, awful disgrace of a man. I personally believe he is a lunatic and he frightens me. I may not be impressed with Obama and what he has done, but I also don't want to have a fanatical lunatic running the country either. 

I can only hope that Mitt Romney kicks his ass and becomes the Republican nominee. I only say this about Romney because he's not Newt and unfortunately, Ron Paul isn't going to get it (he's the lesser of the evils I guess). Santorum's signs are all over my neighborhood and it makes me want to move. I think a lot of people around here don't like Mitt Romney because of his Mormanism or whatever, but since I strongly believe in a separation of Church and State, I could care less about any of their religious preferences- just stay out of my business and try to fix our economy. Make my grocery bill smaller. And let gay people get married- because straight people have done a fine job of screwing up the sanctity of it for years, so why not let them take a crack at it too? 

I don't pretend to have the answers to fix anything going wrong-  but I do know this: Most people I personally know are living quite nicely despite all of the "hell breaking loose" in our country these days- hating Obama and all. I've been seeing things that say, "We survived Bush, You will survive Obama," and I don't think it could be more true. Whoever is in office is always going to be perceived to be ruining the country by the team who didn't win the election. If a Republican gets in office next go around, Democrats will complain about them. Everyone always has something to complain about- but like I said, most people I know are doing just fine and living quite nicely. I know I am- and I'm fortunate and grateful for that. So I try not to complain too much. It's so easy to get carried away with politics, I've learned, so I can avoid a headache by avoiding engaging in it (too much). And avoiding people who engage too much in it too. So if you're posting a bunch of political stuff and anything hateful, I'm going to utilize the "hide" option on my Facebook newsfeed. 

I recently discovered how quickly this can eliminate a sick feeling in my stomach when someone posts something disgustingly hateful about politics. HIDE or UNFRIEND. No one is entitled to take a verbal dump all over your day on a social network. Free speech? Great. Do it all you want. Not on my feed though, if I can control it. 

I'm a registered independent, and I see faults on both sides, which keeps me from ever picking a "team," but the longer I live in Oklahoma, the more to socially to the left I find myself going. I'm embarrassed by my home state most of the time when it comes to politics. 

It just doesn't represent me. Where conservatives stand on social issues make me want to puke. My husband and I are on opposite sides of the fence when it comes to politics- which makes for an awesome time of arguing during election times. I'm totally kidding. It sucks. I respect his opinion though, as I expect him to respect mine. I just have to put the lid on hateful talk. Have I mentioned I don't like hateful talk? I have my theories about why I believe so many people are so ADAMANT about their hate for Obama, but I'll just keep that to myself.

We all know what the elephant in the room is there- and I think it's ridiculous. 

I can't wait until this election year is over. I don't give a shit who wins. 

OK, what number was I on?

Oh yeah,

4.) Rush Limbaugh. Oh, Rush. You stupid bastard. And Sarah Palin, for endorsing and supporting his right for free speech to refer to women as "sluts," you are an embarrassment to your gender. 

That's all I really have to say about that. 

5.) I got to see Radiohead in Dallas this week with my friend Kristen. They were incredible. I'd almost forgotten what it was like to spend that much time- a whole 24 hours- with another adult woman. Without children. Without husband. Without cooking or picking up toys or refereeing little children... 24 hours without domesticity did me well. Girlfriend time is so therapeutic. Kristen and I talked for pretty much the entire 24 hours of our road trip/concert and it felt super good- but I missed my baby the whole time. I even thought about her at the concert. I thought the beer would help, but it really only enhanced the thoughts. It's funny how that happens. I'd also almost forgotten how much I love live music and have decided to make a conscious effort to start treating myself to it more often with Taylor. 

6.) I have a sick baby girl. It's hard to tell how she's feeling, although I know she has a tummy bug because of the puking, because she doesn't really cry or fuss. Ever. She's so low key and easy that it can be deceiving. Unlike her brother, who has always been dramatic and vocal when it comes to not feeling well, Vivienne is very chill about it so I have to keep an eye on her. Jude also woke up with the grossies today, but out the other end. This is when cloth diapering is a pain in the ass. He is potty trained but sleeps in cloth pull-ups at night- which is fine because he doesn't crap his pants- but today he must have some version of the tummy bug that Viv has because crap he did.

I've developed a pretty tough stomach for the grossies since becoming a mom, but there are times like this morning when I just throw my hands up and say, "Oh hell no!" And that's when you throw a cloth underpant away, rather than attempting to wash and rinse and handle sick poop. 

7.) Between the excitement for Vegas, the apprehension and anxiety about Viv turning one and no longer nursing, the political ranting and washing of baby puke off of things, I'll add that I'm happy to see that spring is here- I've enjoyed the rain, I want more, I'm looking forward to doing lots of stuff outside with the kids, getting a tan, cooking out, opening our pool, and seeing flowers all over the damn place.

Happy Friday!